“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” John 8:32.
I think we all struggle with hurt feelings. Feelings are hurt by what someone said or did, or didn’t do. Often, the person who hurt our feelings didn’t do it purposely. But sometimes, I’m afraid, he or she does. I think the hurt is doubly painful when the person is someone we know and like and thought was a friend; then the hurt seems particularly malicious and uncalled for.
It’s no good trying to pretend we didn’t notice or don’t mind, because we do. If we were machines, probably we wouldn’t even notice, but we’re people. So, how do we respond, beyond the shock, surprise, and bewilderment? Other than that, do we ignore or challenge the hurt?
It’s good to realize that the very real person who spoke unkindly or falsely may be having some deep-seated problems of their own. And then, whether to confront the person or to ignore it? Do we keep it a secret or tell others? In thinking ahead, it helps to imagine what the outcome might be for either choice. Would it help or would it hurt in the long run?
What is the truth? Why do people hurt other people? There are probably as many reasons as there are people, and, very often, when we trace back the reason for the mean words or actions, it helps us to understand and, ultimately, to forgive.
Great message, Blanche! Have you heard the saying, “Hurt people hurt people”? All people carry pain that can come out at people they care about. But it’s not about us—it’s about whatever they are going through or have been through. Make sense? Thanks!
Absolutely true!
Often people don’t even realize they’re hurting someone else. That said, there are others who don’t seem to care if they hurt someone else. It takes all kinds.
You’re right, Morgan. Thanks for writing.